Time is Ticking By
This quarter of the year is ticking by. You wonder, “What am I doing differently?” “What happened to those Resolutions to make those follow up calls and organize the fifteen piles on my desk?” “I went to that motivational seminar and felt all pumped up! Now it is a week later and I am in a slump again…”
Start Where You Are
Great news! Start where you are! That is it. Start where you are not where you want to be. This concept, when you reeeeally get it, will give you more energy than two Red Bulls downed at the same time; it will give you more business solutions than an MBA. Why? Because you have you to back you up and you will have instant answers to “What do I do next for business success?”
Wish You Could be Somewhere Else?
The Wanting to Be Somewhere Else syndrome means you aren’t accessing what you have available to you in this moment. You may be thinking, “Come on Marty. How many thousand books have been written, how ancient masters have said, “Be in the present moment that’s why it is called the present? So what’s new about what you are saying?”
That’s All There is to it?
Good question. The wisdom we use today all has been said many thousands of years ago – The Secret, The Law of Attraction – all known in BC centuries of old. It is not what we are saying, it is how it is communicated, what nuance may open you up to see a new angle that reveals the light.
In this post, I will give you the big picture overview and then follow up with support materials. Like many seemingly complex concepts when you step back and get the blimp eye view, it is so simple that in its simplicity it is deeply profound. Its simplicity actually pisses us off in some ways. “You mean that is all there is to it?” “You mean I wasted all this time, all these years struggling and gnashing my teeth thinking I could never achieve my goals and THIS is all it takes!” “Can’t be!” I understand that sentiment and have grieved my loss of time, talent and treasures getting to my understanding of Start Where You Are. And so I offer it to you as my gift. I wish for you to reeeeallly “Get it” today so you can have you available from this moment forward – the real secret of success.
The Science of Emotions
To keep this simple, you will have to trust some principles like you know gravity does what it does and you accept that.
- What you resist persists. The more you avoid something, the more you run into it.( on new years resolutions)
- Feelings are just information giving what you need to do next.
- Your TAGs are your source for having more of you available to back yourself up with your self.
- We fill our sense of lack “Not good enough” with stimuli from the outside, perhaps it looks like: activity, food, booze, work, sex, rage, despair, multiple emails to clients, elaborate Internet schemes.
The Canyon Between Where We are and Where We Want to Be
We will start there. When we want to be where we are not, we focus on the lack of where we are. Imagine with me if you will that you are at the edge of the Colorado River in the Grand Canyon (You earn $5,000 p/mo). You want to get across to the other side (You want to earn $10,000 p/mo). In the moment you are standing at the edge of the canyon, you want to be 18 miles across on the other side. Don’t your goals feel like that? Always out of reach and that we have to use extreme measures to reach them – ride the donkey down the edge of the trail, put on a life jacket paddle the raging river and tired and wet climb out on the other side only to ride the donkey up the trail again. As you look across the gorge, you see only the lack of resources to get “There.” You are fighting what is not there vs acknowledging what is there. You are busy compensating for the lack – in business, sending emails desperately seeking customers, spending untold money on Internet promised success or the latest Twitter Follower Attractor – wanting to fill that canyon so you can simply walk across to the other side. When you have filled the canyon of lack with whatever you choose from the outside, what looked like solid ground was just a mirage. When you take a step, you fall miles into the raging river of disappointment and regret.
Acknowledge Where You Are
When you fill the moment with acknowledgement of where you are, in this case, accepting that you are learning what doesn’t work, then you can be begin to fill the chasm with you. Where the answers lie. This is the process of wisdom. Just be where you are.
Stop. Breathe – three deep breaths.
Feel the feeling coming up, the awareness coming to light. “Ok, Not Working, thanks for stopping by. I see that what I am doing isn’t giving me the results I want. What do you have to teach me today?”
Listen to what Not Working has to say. No matter what Not Working whispers, respect that knowledge and do what was revealed to you – even if it says to “Stop” – particularly if it says, “STOP!” Allow the wisdom that follows you stopping to fill you up with answers. Honor where you are not matter how small the change that bubbles up in that moment of wisdom. That shovel full of real dirt done daily will fill the gorge with genuine possibility of reaching your goals. When you take that step, you will be on terra firma.