Run Toward What You Are Running From
Running from yourself is a long road that leads right back to where you started. Do you find yourself getting busier and busier, and more frantic, and yet don’t do the exact thing that is needed for your growth and development? To be successful? To have that intimate relationship you have always wanted?
Avoidance is the red flag which indicates exactly where your next step lies. At a Monday Morning Motivator Meeting I attended, a quote was read from Jim Rohn, a brilliant motivational speaker. “To be fascinated instead of frustrated.” The rest of the sentence reads, “It is just a little trick to play. The next time you’re tempted to be frustrated, see if you can’t turn it into fascination. Instead of a frown, it puts a smile on your face.” . His idea to become fascinated with your frustration is a mental trick to get the frustration to go away. In fact, it takes away the possibility of using that frustration to learn your next best move. If I had just been “fascinated” with my frustration and slapped a smile on my face, rather than stop and see what Frustration was seeking to tell me, I would have been out 10 grand.
I had made a decision good awhile ago to buy a very expensive training program filled with promises of developing skills to bring sales sliding down the credit card. Great. Get trained, get hired to teach, money problem solved. And yet, my gut felt squirrely. Have you had that feeling where something is not right, and yet another part of you is dragging you along? With this program there were over-the-top promises for the sales and presentation skills that would be learned, and yet the coaches that were on stage were not engaging, the protégés used outdated information and it was all too slick. Despite all the warning bells and red flags, the possibility of big income was alluring.
The more I talked about the event and all the warning signs that were flashing, the more agitated I became. For a day or so, I justified my decision while frustration bubbled up to alert me that something was wrong. At last, I slowed down enough to allow Frustration to let me know what I was running from. I asked, Frustration, “What are you here to teach me today?” Frustration answered, “I am here to alert you to your feeling of anger and betrayal. I’m here to stop you long enough for you know that you are mad at yourself for not honoring your gut that said, “Don’t buy it. You will be out of integrity with yourself.” $10K was saved as I honored myself by calling and cancelling the program. A big genuine smile to that!
What are you Running From?
What are you running from? What is your frustration saying? Perhaps it is about the job that you complain about each night as you walk through the door, all the while knowing that you are denying yourself the pleasure of doing what you really love. Or is it that you are running from that unsatisfying relationship that you whine and moan about to your best friend, while all along you know you need to leave?
Allow your Frustration to speak. Honor who you are. Free yourself to be fascinated with the fabulous opportunity that will emerge once you let go of what is frustrating you.
Smile at creating a satisfying life. Smile at your personal and professional success.