It is so simple it will piss you off. Client after client this week in my coaching business had a big breakthrough by using this simple yet profound tool so I want you to have it as you get ready to make your New Year’s Resolutions.
Our Dualistic World Makes It Simple
Our dualistic world makes the understanding of emotions simple. First know that emotions are just INFORMATION. That is it! Energy in motion = E-motion. They are not there to make you feel bad, ashamed, humiliated. They are there to awaken you to know what you need to develop and where you are already strong. Best business strategy to know – There is Nothing to Fix Just More of You to Discover.
You know the opposite of black is white; up is down; hot is cold. The pendulum of feelings is no different. The opposite of feeling Not Good Enough is Good Enough, Insecure is Secure, Depressed is Energized, Powerless is Powerful. A feeling is just information to inform us what we need to grow and develop (Not Good Enough – where are you Not Good Enough? What do you need to learn?) and where you are already have skills (Good Enough to study more about Facebook so I can feel Secure ) that you can use to help you mature your Not Good Enough.
The Pendulum Swing
How far the pendulum has swung one way (How we look on the outside) reveals the degree to which we actually feel its polar opposite (How we look on the inside). Simply put, inside Genghis Khan is Casper Milquetoast. Inside Casper Milquetoast is Genghis Khan*. As you can see from this example, the more extreme the persona on one side of the polarity, the more extreme the other side. Our tough-guy Genghis Khan covers up where we feel insecure and incapable – our weak-guy Casper Milquetoast covers up a very strong person just waiting to get out there! The degree to which someone seeks to control others, reflects the degree to which they feel out of control inside. The more someone tells you they are of integrity, the more out of integrity they tend to be.
This week look around at your relationships, look within. See where you are covering up how you really feel about yourself by looking like the opposite. The feeling you want to NEVER feel like Powerless, Not Good Enough, those you are going to cover up big time by looking powerful and like your doing fine. By realizing how you really feel, rather than just “Looking good,” you can actually BE POWERFUL and BE GOOD ENOUGH.
Concept by Patricia Sun