No Dust Binning
Giving ourselves credit, I mean really allowing ourselves the pleasure of knowing how fabulous we are, is a foreign idea to most people. Acknowledgement of who we are or what we have achieved is like a hot potato that we can’t hold on to. We quickly throw ourselves in the Dust Bin. “I got my website up this week, BUT I only got one blog posted.” “The kids actually cleaned their rooms on their own without my nagging. I SHOULD have been doing this years ago.” “I closed five sales this week. I feel like a failure. My co-worker closed seven.” Just as you were making progress, you negated all that you had done. When you say BUT that obliterates everything you said before the BUT. The SHOULD imposes at worst, judgement and at best, obligation on the situation at hand. Comparing yourself to another takes away valuing the gains that you have made.
Are you a Dust Binner?
You may think, “So what is the problem? I do need to do better, get more done. I can’t rest on my accomplishments. I’ll never get anywhere.” Actually, the fastest way to move forward and have business success is to stop and acknowledge yourself. Literally, stop. Breathe three deep breathes. Take in what you HAVE done. As you breath in say to yourself, “Good for me I got my website up.” or “All by themselves, the kids cleaned their room!” or “Bravo for me. Five sales this week!” By acknowledging yourself and breathing in all that you have done, you allow your body to transmit the message to your Limbic Brain (fight or flight brain). Now, instead of only having messages about “Not Good Enough,” it has new material to work with. It now can process, “Good Enough. Good Enough. Good Enough!” Layer upon layer, your successes can influence how you manage the next incidence that arises. A great business strategy is honoring the progress you have made. These successes gives your brain a new reference point to grow from.
There is Nothing to Fix.
Just More of You to Discover.