What is it that you are birthing?
Do you have an idea, a concept, a blog, a business plan, a book that you have been playing with, rolling around in your mind and excited and scared to share or to even really allow yourself to REALLY consider? Are you questioning yourself? Second guessing yourself , thinking, “THEY (whoever ‘they’ are) can do it but my idea won’t work;” or “They (whoever ‘they’ are) won’t approve.” Despite your doubts, do you find yourself spending lots of delightful time daydreaming imagining your idea coming to fruition?
What TAG Are you Hankering to Express?
This is you getting ready to experience the evolving of an aspect of yourself that you want to express. What talent, ability do you want to develop? What creative element in you is chopping at the bit to be freed ?
I remember when my book My Private Sessions got closer and closer to press, I saw more than ever how being pregnant with a fabulous concept to be fleshed out and revealed was, in fact , equated to, rather than just a clique, to being pregnant. Having delivered a couple of those magnificent creatures called children into the world, I saw how delivering My Private Sessions and now my Bully-ed to Boss Empowerment Program to the world that creating a child and birthing an idea, invention, business, book, non-profit, art project takes the same courage, willingness to explore new aspects of ourselves and to discover where we need to learn more and determination to see the project through!
The Birthing Process
As you read this description below that I wrote from the author’s point of view, consider your project, your creative desire, your new business, your daring plan to change the world and know that it too is a scary, exciting, will-I-ever-make-it and if I do will-I-know-what-to-do time. It is in the expressing of the very essence of yourself – your Talent, Ability, Gift (TAG) that you unleash your creative force. It doing that, you will have more joy, more energy, more peace and prosperity is bound to follow.
Author: At first you think about writing a book and, unsure if you have what it takes, dabble in your journal. Finally, with trepidation, you take the risk. You commit to the writing process and begin in earnest.
Parenthood: Considering parenthood, you have fun and enjoy the sex. You are sacred and excited with the possibility, each time wondering if this will be the magic moment when sperm meets egg. Hoping and fearing the test reads “Positive.”
Author: You start your book and with great enthusiasm and really get active in the creating. You’ve whispered what you have been doing to a few people to get reactions. Your not quite ready to make it real in your own mind as you still wonder can you do it? Can you really follow through with honoring who you are and valuing your ideas enough to get them out there. Maybe you ought to put the book on the shelf for another year when you are really ready.
Parenthood: Are you prepared to put who are on the line and raise a child? You are you really ready to have that responsibility of a life to guide along its path? In a moment of doubt, you hear, “Maybe we ought to reconsider. Is it too late to change our minds?”
Author: After a few months, the pages start to take form. At about the fifth month, chapters with images and characters and plot are enlivening the pages. As you reread, you are enjoying the unfolding and hear your self reark, “Not bad. Not bad at all. Oh, I like THAT line.”
Parenthood:: At about five months, the doctor always says, you’ve gained too much as the baby hits a big growth spurt and mom’s belly really sticks out there. People are vying to rub that belly amazed at the morphing a woman’s body does.
Author: The reality that you better start thinking about how you are going to publish hits about the seventh month. Eight chapters are written and everyone is asking when it will be finished. “What IS it about anyway?”
Parenthood: Baby furniture in construction phase, room colors picked out – blue with hint of yellow and names chosen as the sonogram revealed, “Boy/Girl.”
Author: There is anxiety and ,yet, excitement to be finished and be on book tour. Then again, you find you are not writing everyday and the dust is gathering on the pages to be edited. “What AM I doing?” and “How did I think I could be an author and be up there speaking on that stage?”
Parenthood: As you hear babies screaming uncontrollably as you waddle, holding hands, basketball-size-belly bumping displays now and then, you wonder aimlessly through the isles at WalMart, questioning yourself “What WAS I thinking? Me, a Mom/Dad! I don’t know what to do! You fantasize, maybe I can have the doctor sew in a zipper so when I am ready, THEN I’ll release Billy/ Sue.”
Author: As the conclusion begins to form and the freshly designed cover eliciting just the emotion you desired is printed and laid on top of the stacks of chapters with red marks and comments in the margins, you see it. A real book greets you on the kitchen counter’s edge. With heightened anticipation followed by doubt, you wonder how it will all turnout. Will you be a good steward of your work and worthy of its effort? When you speak on stage, will you be judged as powerful, just good enough or a wannabe? Will you be proud or embarrassed by your performance?
Parenthood: Parenthood is like that. The ninth month has a arrived. The inevitable day is upon you. As you look at that amazing body, able to adjust to carry your creation, you question what your future holds. What does it take to parent successfully ? How is success defined and by whom? Will be judged as great, just good enough or a tyrant? Nurture versus nature and pier pressure versus your influence. Will you be available to listen and hear BillyJoe’s cry for help and know how to give him choices and then let go. When to guide and when is silence best. Will you accept him for who he is and not demand him to be who you want him to be so you look good? Will you allow his process while guiding him along the way, proud to be witness to his evolution?)
Author: Then the day arrives. You cry out, “Enough!” Editing,upon editing, upon editing is done. It is time to let go and give your book life. You can’t hold on any longer to perfect it here or there. The formatter has worked her magic and all is aligned and ready. Bravely, you upload your book into CreateSpace. With no fanfare nor champaign but a deep breath taken and held, you click Upload and then pace anxiously while you wait for the moment you can download. A long satisfied, “Ahhhhhh.” Followed by a, “YIIPPPEE!” and big “YES! YES! YES!” as you dance around the room. Control is gone now. It is out there ready for public consumption. Thumbs up or thumbs down, you are exposed for all to see. You now to discover just what you are made of and who you are in this next phase of your evolution. The discomfort of this new author/speaker-zone rich to hone old skills and learning new. Your creation stands alone with its message to be understood and interpreted by each person in their unique way. You can guide and yet, your creation is on its own and will impact the world as it does. How powerful is that.
Congratulations on your creation.
Parenthood:The birth day arrives. Ready not ready, doctor determined day or child chosen? Always it is the child-chosen-day. Control is gone. Soon you’ll be used to it. The upload was nine months, give or take a few days or weeks. Birth is the big glorious download moment; wet, slippery, red and pink. A big “AHHHHHHHHHH, push , push. Pant, blow. Pant, blow. AHHHHHHHHH. PUSH!” Download complete. YES! YES! YES! YIIPPEE!
There you are exposed in all your insecurity and assuredness, can-do and not-so-sure. Ready to explore who you are now so far out of your comfort zone and yet, determined to settle in and experience the edges of your new parenting zone. Guiding your creation through spectacular moments of great days and rich moments of not good enough all your joint evolutionary road. S/he is out there on their own interacting in the world as s/he does. Their impact is uniquely thiers. How exciting is that! Congratulations on your creation!
A Colorful and satisfying Journey as you birth yourself in your creative process.